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Division I & II
Division I: Health, Self Enhancement, & Interpersonal Relationships.

THERAPIES
ISSUES ADDRESSED
  Division I

THERAPIES
Health, Self Enhancement, & Interpersonal Relationships  

COUNSELING AND PSYCHOTHERAPY: For Individuals, Couples, and Families

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member: American Psychological Association, American Counseling Association; Diplomate: American Psychotherapy Association, American Academy of Pain Management; Dr. Gildston: Board Certified: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, APA, EMDR International Association; Fellow: National Anger Management Association.

Individuals (All Ages): 

  • Issues Addressed:
    • Self-esteem
    • Self-confidence
    • Motivation
    • Fears
      • Public Speaking
      • Dental/Surgical
      • Heights
      • Flying
      • Driving
      • Insects
      • Animals
      • The dark
      • Imaginary creatures
      • Illness
      • Death
      • Sexual
      • Commitments
    • Chronic Pain
    • PTSD
    • BDD
    • BPD
  • Phobias
  • Social Anxiety
  • Generalized Anxiety
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
  • Oppositional Defiant Disorder
  • ADD/AD-HD/PDD
  • Depression
  • Loss/Grief
  • Potency/Frigidity
  • Assertiveness/Passivity
  • Procrastination
  • Boredom
  • Bad habits
  • Addictions
  • Bereavement
  • Loneliness
  • School/Career
  • Unwanted patterns of behavior
  • Anger Management
Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has headed advanced professional workshops (some in conjunction with a psychiatrist) on the following topics, among many others:
  • “Psychodynamic approaches in individual counseling.”
  • “Psychotherapy for children of separation and divorce.”
  • “Withdrawal and delinquency in adolescents: Is there a ‘best’ therapeutic approach?”
  • “Bereavement counseling.”
  • “Prolonged Exposure Therapy for PTSD.”
  • "How to "act" in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy."
  • "How would Socrates react to DBT?"
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Couples: 
We specialize in helping you: Repair breakdowns in communication--verbal and nonverbal; Lift the veil from understanding your partner's emotional reactions.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Role perceptions & biases
    • Money
    • Sex
    • Infidelity
    • Jealousy
    • Commitment
    • Abuse
    • Work
    • Chores
    • Boredom


  • Power plays
  • Misunderstandings
  • Differing interests
  • Ethnic and religious differences
  • Children
  • Parents
  • In-laws
  • Other relatives and friends
  • Detrimental patterns of behavior.
  • Anger Management

 

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has presided over workshops (some in conjunction with a psychiatrist) on the following topics, among many others:
  • “Infidelity:  What is the solution for YOU?”
  • “Why couples squabble over money and sex.”
  • “Couples counseling.”
  • “Rational Emotive Therapy for troubled relationships.”
  • “Mental health and interpersonal communication: A skills training Workshop.”
  • "The Oprah Effect: Imago Relationship Therapy"
  • “Is it what I say or how I say it?”
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Families:

  • Relationships:
    • Parent-parent
    • Parent-infant
    • Parent-child
    • Parent- adolescent
    • Parent-stepchild
    • Parent-adult child
    • Siblings
    • Nuclear family as a whole
    • Blended Families
    • Divorced-Remarried
    • Grandparents-parents
    • Grandparents-grandchildren
    • In-laws-parents
    • Other significant relatives and friends
    • Extended families
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Misunderstandings
    • Biased role perceptions
    • Privacy vs. Need to know
    • Ethnic/Religious differences
    • Finances: Control & Budgeting
    • Power plays
    • Chores/Responsibilities
    • Commitment
    • Work Time vs. Family Time
    • Love
    • Guilt
    • Fear/Anxiety
    • Abuse
    • Alliances/Scapegoats
    • Dysfunctional patterns of behavior
    • Anger Management

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has headed workshops (some in conjunction with a psychiatrist) on the following topics, among many others:
  • “Issues with In-laws, grand-parents, and the extended family.”
  • “Imminent divorce or separations:  What about the children?”
  • “Family therapy a la Minuchin.”
  • “Systems interventions for families in crisis.”
  • “The role of interpersonal communication in psychotherapy for families.”
 

MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPIES: Dr. Gildston: Professional Clinical Member and Board Certified, American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT)

To be CERTIFIED by the AAMFT, therapists must have completed extensive AAMFT approved training and provided evidence of broad experience employing systems theory intervention techniques with couples and families.

The many varied approaches to marriage and family therapy (MFT) demand expertise on the part of therapists in knowing how to pick and choose among them to meet clients' needs. Our therapists are familiar with the full array of MFT approaches, from Minuchin to Feminism.


Our director, Dr. Gildston, presented a professional workshop at the 2009 Annual Conference of the American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT) entitled "Why family therapy for eating disorders is the way to go." (Please see Couples and Families above, under Counseling and Psychotherapy for other workshops presented by Dr. Gildston.

PARENTING 

 Good Parenting:  

  • Respect your child and expect respect from your child.
  • Take time to observe your child, without interruption, to understand better her moods, abilities, temperament.
  • Listen carefully to what your child says before responding.
  • Acknowledge and accept your child’s feelings. Let him know it’s OK to feel sad, angry, or frightened.  Make him aware that he can come to you when he has those feelings and the two or you (or the three of you, including his other parent) can work out the underlying problems together.
  • Understand that your tone of voice, facial expression, and body language are more powerful than the words you utter.
  • Recognize that your own attitudes and behaviors serve as models for your child.
  • Take time to think through your responses to questions and demands.
  • Try to match the speed of your reactions to that of your child. Babies and many children live in a different time frame from adults.
  • Make clear your expectations. Recognize that compliance may not be immediate or consistent but don’t give up on what you believe is right.  Good energy between you and your children is the basis for good discipline.
  • Set appropriate limits. Even when you acknowledge a feeling or desire, you must make your child aware of appropriate behavior and family rules:
    “I can see you're mad at your brother because he took that toy from you, but you cannot hit him.  Let’s figure out what you can do instead.”
  • Don’t rush in to solve all of your child’s challenges.
    Give her enough time to solve challenges on her own, from learning to walk or put on her shoes when she is a baby or toddler to resolving conflicts with siblings and friends when he is pre-pubescent or adolescent.  Foster as much independence as possible.
  • Don’t give up your life for your kids.  Nurture your marriage, your friends, and yourself.  Work out arrangements whereby your children can be taken care of by family, friends, or a baby sitter so that you can resume a life without kids for a while.  Parenting will seem less of a chore if you’re happy and fulfilled.
  • The more positive your attitude, the more likely your child will develop a sense of optimism—despite those little setbacks and bad times that we all experience.
  • By all means, intervene when it’s really necessary.  Just don’t overdo it.  Overprotection is bad for your child and may even be evidence of unconscious rejection.
 
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Good parenting families come in all shapes and sizes.

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Bad Parenting: 

Bad parenting is the opposite of each of the above guidelines. Stating what is good parenting is MUCH easier than actually being a good parent.  REMEMBER:  NO PARENT IS PERFECT.  You will make mistakes. 

Come to our Center with your serious parenting issues. We will tailor make potential solutions for you.  Imagine what your life will be like once you’re on the road, moving in the right direction.

Parenting skills are passed down from parents to children. That’s why parenting is an important skill. It only takes one generation to not pull its weight. The damage is passed down to your children’s children.  Consequences can be monumentally negative.
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Something’s not right.
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The stats are startling but single moms CAN turn out great kids!
We can help that happen.
 
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You’ve heard it before… A picture is worth a thousand words!
 
 
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Can you say it any better?
Because we have over 20 years’ experience guiding moms and dads grow healthy children, you can be assured we will guide you in the right direction.
 
Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has chaired and participated in the following workshops on parenting, among many others:
  • “Overprotection and its discontents.”
  • “Effects of frequent marital blow-outs on the kids.”
  • “Research findings on parenting skills or lack thereof.”
  • “How to make a difference in parenting your shy child.”
  • “Bullying, and what parents can do about it.”
 
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  COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY (CBT) & ALL ITS VARIATIONS

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member, Association for Behavior and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT)

All psychotherapy has cognitive components. A truly cognitive-behavioral approach, however, distinguishes itself by the interventions it champions to change cognitive experiences, including the transformation not only of thoughts, assumptions, evaluations, and beliefs, but of related emotions and behaviors as well.

Each of these key human components influences the others. CBT therapies are less concerned with the psychodynamic understanding of unconscious emotions and drives and more focused on how the patient perceives current realities. The meaning given to events is what is deemed to be important. Therapy is geared toward moving away from negative constellations toward more flexible, realistic, and positive schema.

Over the years CBT has spawned a host of modifications in approach. Our clinicians are trained not only in the enduring basic approach of CBT but in all of its many variations as well. They use their expertise to select the best intervention or combination of interventions for each client. Among the most popular variations are:

  • REBT Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
  • ERP Exposure and Response Prevention
  • ACT Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
  • DBT Dialectical Behavior Therapy
  • M & M Mindfulness & Mentalization
  • CFT Cognitive Family Therapy
  • MI Motivational Interviewing
  • IRRT Imagery Rescripting and Reprocessing Therapy
  • CAT Cognitive Analytic Therapy
  • Goals:
    • Identify:
      • maladaptive and irrational thoughts.
      • debilitating negative emotions.
      • behavior locked into such thoughts and emotions.
      • core non-optimal beliefs--many formed in childhood--that result in reflexive maladaptive and irrational responses.
    • Specify:
      • how and why these factors are inaccurate, dysfunctional, irrational, or simply non-optimal.
    • Reject:
      • such distorted, unrealistic, unhelpful cognitions, emotions and behaviors.
    • Replace:
      • with those that are more functional, realistic, and helpful.
Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has presented advanced professional workshops on the following topics, among many others:
  • “DBT and ACT: How different are they from CBT?”
  • “Rational Emotive Therapy for troubled relationships.”
  • “A cognitive-behavioral approach to giving up bad habits.”
  • “We’re only a few new thoughts away from conquering those panic attacks.”
  • “Mama said it, Daddy reinforced it, and they both modeled it…. But are the related hand-me-down beliefs and actions optimal?”
  • Dr. Gildston chaired a workshop at the 6th World Congress of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies at Boston University in June of 2010.
  • Dr. Gildston is also the Director of the North Shore Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Center

 
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PSYCHODYNAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY: LONG-TERM & SHORT-TERM

At our center we only have qualified Mental Health Professionals—such as Dr. Gildston—with a license that allows that professional to employ psychodynamic psychotherapy and psychoanalysis in their therapeutic work because they have been trained to employ these modalities.
 
Long-Term Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, also known as insight-oriented therapy, is based in part on certain Freudian concepts.  It can be used as a primary or ancillary approach for stubborn, chronic emotional pain.                                                                    

Whereas CBT and its modern offshoots aim to solve current problems in a timely manner, only short-term psychodynamic psychotherapy (see below) operates somewhat similarly.

Long-term psychodynamic psychotherapy seeks out early traumatic events—forgotten and/or repressed—which have never been adequately resolved and which are preventing us from living to the fullest. We become aware, thereby, of present ways of coping which are ineffective, even destructive.  Although they may have served a protective purpose in childhood, such actions and reactions are no longer serviceable. The uncovering process allows us to be more open to learn and act upon a broad range of new options for solving problems based upon freshly developed and more mature perceptions. Hence our relationships are less disturbed by unresolved traumas.  One may think about the process as rooting out causes rather than merely removing symptoms.  


Historical Roots: 

Psychoanalysis
Ego Psychology
Object Relations
Self Psychology
Ego-State Therapy (Often referred to as: Parts Work)
 
Psychoanalysis:  Sexual and aggressive energies in the unconscious id are moderated by the ego to better adapt to external reality.  Defense mechanisms are created by the ego to minimize pain and maintain psychic stability.  Guilt also controls id drives via the superego created during a period of life labeled “latency” (age 5 to puberty).  Psychoanalysis, the father of psychodynamic psychotherapy, is one of the most intense forms of therapy.  Typically it requires several sessions per week—anywhere from three to five—and incorporates the use of the “couch” wherein a patient does not have eye to eye contact with the analyst. Ongoing concentrated sessions commonly last for at least a year or two.  Some patients continue for many more years.
 
Ego Psychology:  The focus is on boosting and maintaining the work of the ego in light of the demands of reality.  It aims to increase the patient’s ability to incorporate reality testing, defense, and adaptation into daily life.
 
Object Relations:  Based on the belief that we are formed in relation to significant others (objects), we struggle to maintain these relationships even as we strive to build a differentiated self.  What happens to us in our childhood connections with others is revisited in our adult relationships.  We make every effort to both conquer these habitually relived relations and to free ourselves from them.
 
Self Psychology:  The presence or lack of self-esteem within our experience and image of our self is a key factor in shaping our lives.  The ability to establish adequate boundaries between our self and others will determine how well we can differentiate our self from others. The focus of therapy is on establishing differentiation and realistic boundaries.
 
Ego-State Therapy (Often referred to as: Parts Work): Developed most fully by Jack and Helen Watkins, this intervention aims to resolve conflicts between various “ego states” that constitute a “family of self” within a single individual. They can be uncovered through dynamic verbal exploration, guided imagery, and/or hypnosis. Developmentally, children learn to integrate concepts into higher level categories. “Milk” and “bread” are later understood to fall into the category of “food.” The opposite also holds true. As the child matures he learns to differentiate “food” from “vehicles.” Both processes are normal and adaptive. Feelings, perceptions, and thoughts also organize into permeable patterns or clusters which constitute our various “ego states.” They are bound together by some common principle. The genesis of ego states is not restricted to one age period nor do ego states necessarily keep the same force over a lifetime. As clinicians we can talk to different ego states and have ego states talk to each other. This form of therapy has been found to be exceedingly useful with many types of disorders.

[When the separating process becomes excessive or maladaptive, it is labeled “dissociation.” Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) represents an extreme and maladaptive form of the normal differentiation continuum.]
                          
 
Short-Term Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

Short-Term psychodynamic therapy differs from long-term psychotherapy mostly in approach rather than theory.  Unlike long-term psychodynamic therapy in which the patient in free association is allowed to go off onto multiple tangents, the short-term approach typically focuses on one major issue at a time.  The therapist repeatedly brings the patient back to whatever is the agreed upon problem zone with interpretations centered thereon.  Shorter interventions are thought to be able to initiate a process of change that can be ongoing without a long-term continuous therapeutic connection.

Most modern psychodynamic psychotherapists use a mixture of psychodynamic and solution-focused therapies, especially CBT and its more recent variations.

For example, COGNITIVE ANALYTIC THERAPY (CAT) aims to have you think about yourself in a different way. It goes beyond your “diagnosis” to scout out previously learned thinking and behavioral patterns that have become life obstacles in your relationship with yourself and others. The relationship with your therapist is the key starting point.
  • Start with the reformulation phase
    • What goes wrong
    • What works well
  • Review “I act as if I….”
  • Discover what underlies your mood shifts
  • Learn to map out problem patterns
  • Analyze/elaborate on the therapist’s suggestions for change

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has led the following workshops on psychodynamic psychotherapy and psychoanalysis, among others:

  • “Why psychoanalysis if CBT can do the trick?  Ah, good question!”
  • “Major traumas require more.  More what?”
  • “Psychodynamic therapy does NOT have to be a forever process.”
  • “CBT, psychodynamic psychotherapy, and hypnosis: A dynamic trio for change.”
  • “The role of questionnaires and paper mapping in CAT.”
  • “The up-front and personal therapeutic style of CAT.”
 
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HYPNOTHERAPY & GUIDED IMAGERY

Dr. Gildston: Advanced Certification: Approved Consultant, American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH); Past President, New York Society of Clinical Hypnosis (NYSCH).


Hypnosis and Guided Imagery enable us to change our state of mind. Harvard University researchers demonstrated that, in these naturally altered states, we engage more areas of the brain than are involved in our every-day state. This makes for more brain connections and more profound mind-body connections to effect desired changes.

The route to hypnosis and guided imagery is most often achieved through relaxation which, in turn, generates a release of tension in both mind and body. With these techniques we empower ourselves to overcome life's roadblocks.

Anyone not seriously mentally retarded or brain damaged can benefit from hypnosis and guided imagery.

You are probably the victim of many myths about hypnosis and guided imagery. If you decide to try these powerful techniques to help resolve any of your concerns, we will answer all of your questions to put your mind at ease during your free consultation.

  • Ericksonian Hypnotherapy: Our therapists are experts in this specialized technique which is used typically in conjunction with other techniques to allow for more rapid resolution of many problematic issues.
  • Past-Life Regression: For those who wish to explore this possibility, the psychotherapists at our Center have extensive training and experience in its useful application. It should be noted that research does not confirm whether or not positive results in therapy confirm the reality of past lives or can be explained otherwise.
  • Guided Imagery: Combines selected aspects of Neurolinguistic Programming, Ericksonian hypnosis, Moreno Psychodrama, Jungian archetypes, and other image-rich techniques to help guide the unconscious toward desired goals.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Smoking
    • Weight
    • Performance Anxiety
    • Achieving Peak Performance
    • Habits
    • Speech Fears
    • Sleep
    • Stress
    • Confidence
    • Shyness

  • Sex
  • Sports
  • Anxiety
  • Phobias
  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Grief/Loss
  • Addiction
  • Obsessions
  • Relationships
  • PTSD

  • Chronic Pain
  • Tinnitus
  • Bruxism
  • TMJ/Gnashing Teeth
  • ADD/ADHD
  • Stuttering
  • PMS
  • IBS
  • Birthing
  • Misplaced Items
  • Memory Enhancement
Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has presented advanced professional workshops on the following topics, among many others:
  • “Hypnosis in the treatment of LD, AD-HD, ODD and Asperger’s Disorder.”
  • “Ericksonian hypnotherapy for treating bad habits and substance related disorders.”
  • “Improving your golf or tennis swing via guided imagery.”
  • “Hypnosis for troubled relationships.”
  • “Changing the self-concept with hypnosis.”
  • “Guided imagery and hypnosis for performance, social and test anxiety.”
  • “Hypnosis in the control of smoking and weight.”
  • Dr. Gildston is Past President of the New York Society of Clinical Hypnosis and a Representative to the Governing Board of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis.

 EMDR, FSAP, ACUPRESSURE, EFT, TFT:


Dr. Gildston: Certified Professional Member, International EMDR Association (EMDRIA). To be CERTIFIED in EMDR by EMDRIA, therapists must have completed extensive EMDRIA approved training and given evidence of broad experience employing EMDR with patients.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful technique that often achieves quick-acting, permanent results. Simple alternating left-right eye movements were originally its method for achieving positive emotional and behavioral changes. As the discipline evolved, however, multiple forms of bilateral stimulation proved to be equally effective for treating a broad array of problems.

This revolutionary technique relies on the theorized capacity of our emotions and thoughts to normalize toward the positive when appropriately stimulated. Psychological wound healing is believed to be similar to the body's natural attempts to heal itself when wounded physically.

The International EMDR Association defines EMDR in part as follows:

"In the broadest sense, EMDR is intended to alleviate human suffering and assist individuals and human society to fulfill their potential for development while minimizing risks of harm in its application. For the client, the aim of EMDR treatment is to achieve the most profound and comprehensive treatment effects in the shortest period of time, while maintaining client stability within a balanced family and social system.

EMDR is founded on the premise that each person has both an innate tendency to move toward health and wholeness, and the inner capacity to achieve it. EMDR is grounded in psychological science and is informed by both psychological theory and research on the brain.

EMDR integrates elements from both psychological theories (e.g. affect, attachment, behavior, bioinformational processing, cognitive, humanistic, family systems, psychodynamic and somatic) and psychotherapies (e.g., body-based, cognitive-behavioral, interpersonal, person-centered, and psychodynamic) into a standardized set of procedures and clinical protocols. Research on how the brain processes information and generates consciousness also informs the evolution of EMDR theory and procedure."

  • Issues Addressed:
    • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
    • Phobias
    • Addictions
    • Depression
    • Eating Disorders

    • Feeling stuck
    • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
    • Generalized Anxiety
    • Specific Anxieties
    • Panic Disorders

and most other unhappy states of mind.

Dr. Gildston: Certified Professional Member,
Feeling State Addiction Protocol (FSAP)

“EMDR is a clinically proven psychotherapy that has been used in the treatment of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) to reduce traumatic fixations. People who have been traumatized often have vivid memories of the traumatic event. EMDR processes and reduces the intensity of these memories. FSAP has modified the EMDR protocol because of the different psychological dynamics that create compulsive fixations rather than traumatic fixations.” (per creator of FSAP)


Click on Addictions and Compulsive Behaviors to see a full description of FSAP with regard to its application for addictions. 

ACUPRESSURE (A combination of acupuncture POINTS and PRESSURE):

Acupressure relies on the non-invasive stimulation of specific acupuncture points associated with the body's energy meridians. It was developed over three thousand years ago in China and is considered a major component of Chinese Traditional Medicine. Unlike Acupuncture, which requires the insertion of fine needles into the body at these key points, acupressure treatments use physical pressure applied by a finger, hand, elbow, or other device.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and TFT (Thought Field Therapy):

Interventions using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) employ tapping sequences on select acupuncture meridian points on the upper body for various problems. EFT is a simple and sometimes highly effective technique which can be quickly learned and applied to relieve stress. It developed from a more complex technique called Thought Field Therapy (TFT) developed by psychologist Roger Callahan. EFTs founder, Gary Craig, discovered that he was able to achieve the same positive results with this much less complicated approach.

Unlike EMDR, however, Acupressure and EFT have not been independently validated in objective, scientific research studies. They are, however, used widely, either alone or in combination with other techniques. A vast array of anecdotal reports support their efficacy.

 


MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS:

Meditation

Meditation induces an altered mental state which, in turn, induces calm, mindfulness or mindlessness, and peace of body and mind. There are many different meditation techniques. It is important to match the technique to the individual. Our counselors and meditation teachers are trained in multiple schools of meditation as well as in the psychotherapeutic use of meditation.

  • Schools of Meditation:
    • Transcendental (TM)
    • Vipassana
    • Zen Buddhist
    • Indian Mandala
    • Tibetan Chanting
    • Benson Modern
    • ......and many more.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • All stress and anxiety related conditions/disorders
    • Addictions
    • Dysfunctional mood states
    • Autoimmune Diseases
    • Chronic Pain
    • AD-HD
    • .....and the like


Mindfulness


Mindfulness is a noun. But it is defined differentially in subtle ways. Review the following:

Dictionary Definition: “Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. It is used as a therapeutic technique.”

Jon Kabat-Zinn's definition of mindfulness: “paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.”

Psychology Today defines it in this way: “Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.”

David S. Black, on the other hand, needed 2 pages to render “A Brief Definition of Mindfulness.”

Note his conclusion after listing multiple definitions: “…serious attention to mindfulness by the scientific community was not given until more recently when the concept was translated into measureable terms, or given an operational definition.” Numerous measures of mindfulness, he adds, has “…contributed to study mindfulness on a scientific level…as a dispositional characteristic (a relatively long lasting trait), an outcome (a state of awareness resulting from mindfulness training), and as a practice (mindfulness meditation practice itself).

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has led the following workshops on Meditation and Mindfulness:
  • “TM or Zen Buddhism: Which is right for YOU?”
  • “Is the Mindfulness trend hype or reality: stories and statistics”
  • “I’m too busy to meditate. What can I do instead?”

ART THERAPY:

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member, American Art Therapy Association (AATA) and Arts In Therapy.

Every major therapeutic technique can be translated, in part, to a corresponding art therapy technique. For appropriately selected individuals, couples, and families with certain problems, using adjunctive art therapy can be of immense benefit.

What is Art Therapy?

Art therapy uses the creative process as a key form of expression for children, adolescents, and adults with emotional, mental, or physical distress. Via verbal and non-verbal modes, art therapy helps to resolve personal and interpersonal issues. It should be understood, however, that the art work itself is just one of many important components in the process of psychotherapy.

As defined by the prestigious American Art Therapy Association:

“Art therapy...is based on the belief that the creative process involved in artistic self-expression helps people to resolve conflicts and problems, develop interpersonal skills, manage behavior, reduce stress, increase self-esteem and self-awareness, and achieve insight.

Art therapy integrates the fields of human development, visual art (drawing, painting, sculpture, and other art forms), and the creative process with models of counseling and psychotherapy.”


As an example, in a research project entitled Art and Children's Perceptions of Physicians completed at the Cystic Fibrosis Center of Stanford University, one of the art tasks for the children with CF was to “draw a picture of your doctor.” Since it is important that positive affect be generated between long-term patients and their caregivers, an objective of the study was to contrast projective art drawings with self-report measures in examining children's perceptions of their doctors. It was reported that “the results from the children with CF were "hopeful", and reflected the close relationship that is formed over the years of treatment for CF. For example, when asked why she wouldn't recommend her doctor to her friend, one participant replied, "She's my doctor... I want her to myself."”



  • Issues Addressed:
    • Anxiety
    • Depression
    • OCD
    • Phobias
    • AD-HD
    • Substance Abuse
    • Family & Relationship Issues
    • Abuse & Domestic Violence
    • Trauma & Loss
    • Cognitive & Neurological Problems
    • Chronic Pain & Disability
    • …and more





MUSIC THERAPY

Music Therapy is the clinical use of music interventions to accomplish individualized goals within atherapeutic relationship. It may entail using musical instruments or listening to carefully selected types of music from Bach to rock and beyond. Evidence based research supports its effectiveness for many mental health problems.

“Where words fail, music speaks” (Anonymous)

  


Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has conducted (get it?) the following Music Therapy Workshops:
  • “How do PTSD, Anxiety, & Sleep Disorders take in the Tibetan Singing Bowl?
  • “Troubled teenagers and the hard rock or metal beat.”
  • “Banging away anger on differently pitched drums.”
  • "Analyzing the effects of humming, singing, or creating new lyrics for ‘Amazing Grace"

BODY WORK AND ENERGY HEALING:

Cloaked in many different names:

Somatic Experiencing
Manipulative Therapy
Breth Work
Energy Medicine
Body Dynamics
Aura Power
Best known non-touch forms:

Reiki
Yoga
Pranayama
Therapeutic Touch
Qigong
Tai Chi
Best known manipulative forms:

Alexander Technique
Craniosacral Therapy
Feldenkrais Method
Rolfing
Shiatsu
Trager Approach

REIKI ENERGY HEALING: Dr. Gildston: Certified Reiki Master

This powerful Japanese technique is an alternative approach to healing physical, emotional, and spiritual problems. Reiki in
Japanese means “universal life force energy.”

Reiki is a non-invasive holistic healing method based upon revitalizing and rebalancing the energy system of the body. 
Yoga labels that energy Prana, Acupuncture and Acupressure call it Ki (Japan) or Chi (China).

The healer uses his or her hands to identify and rebalance those areas of the head and body wherein the energy is too
intense, too weak or simply not moving as it should. The technique can be applied with hands on or just over the body
as well as at a short distance from the body.

The recipient may feel tingling, warmth, coolness, and (or) energy flow. The visualization of colors, shapes or images may
also arise. A general sense of calm and relaxation typically ensues.

Reiki has been used to:

  • Improve and Reinforce:
    • Beneficial life changes:
      • Proper diet
      • Desire to exercise
    • Body’s natural healing powers
    • Body’s immune system
    • Sound sleep
  • Reduce:
    • Anxiety
    • Chronic pain
    • Negative stress reactions
    •  …and more




If you elect to go this route, you will be treated by a certified Reiki Master Teacher and Healer.

 

There’s Feldenkrais at work.

Yoga Breathing and the Chakras

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has lead the following workshops in Body Work and Energy Healing:

  • “Embedding Reiki Energy Healing into Hypnotherapy”
  • “Challenging Decision: Will the Alexander or Feldenkreis Technique be better for you.”
  • “Research results on the differing Breathing Techniques aimed at reducing anxiety.”


 

 
   
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DREAM WORK: A Dynamic Therapeutic Tool

Dream work can provide dramatic insights into roots of current day problems. In ancient times dreams were considered to be a form of supernatural communication. Sometimes they were viewed as evidence of divine intervention.

From Freud's take on dreams as unfulfilled wishes, to Jung's personal and collective dream archetypes, to the more modern spin on the meaning of dreams as messages to the dreamer, dream work is used when appropriate to unveil hidden source material. It can also provide guidelines for positive behaviors despite Plato's famous conclusion: The virtuous man is content to dream what a wicked man really does.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Unconscious fears
    • Nightmares
    • Repeated Dreams
    • Dream series
    • Repressed memories
    • Latent versus manifest content
    • Unconscious networking
    • Condensation of complex thoughts
    • Displacement from threatening to acceptable surface images
    • Unique and personal associations to dream content
    • Visitation dreams
    • Dream channeling
    • Dream dramaturgy
    • Day dreams
    • Preverbal issues
    • Dream reflections of dreamers waking state concerns
    • Neurophysiological and neurochemical aspects of dreaming
  • Intervention Techniques:
    • Uncovering multiple dreamer ego states
      (a la Watkins)
    • Hypnotherapeutic dream work
      (a la Erickson)
    • Role playing (a la Moreno)
    • Building bridges (a la Satir & Watkins)
    • Cracking the symbol codes
      (a la Jung and Klein)
    • Lucid dreaming (a la Hobson)
    • and much more
Our Director, Dr. Gildston
  • Integrated both Freud’s and Jung’s dream theories with the newer neurocognitive based theories of dreams.
  • The resulting psychotherapeutic benefits have been markedly positive for individuals with issues that involve significant dream components.
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BIOFEEDBACK

Dr. Gildston is Certified in Advanced Biofeedback

But…What exactly IS biofeedback?

Literally, it is the human subject receiving objective information about his own functioning. The information is used to effect positive change.
  • Typically the feedback is either visual and (or) auditory.
    • Verbal feedback, hypnosis or guided imagery may accompany the use of biofeedback equipment.
 



There are three major types of biofeedback:
  • Temperature Control:  Making a part of the body warmer usually brings more relaxation and reduces stress.  Correlated biological systems also move toward a more positive state.
  • EEG (Electroencephalography):  Electrodes on the head read brain waves.  The subject attempts to change the brain wave pattern in order to induce relaxation and reduce pain. The four waves most commonly identified in biofeedback are Beta, Alpha, and Theta—although Delta and Gamma waves are also measured for other purposes with different equipment:
    • Beta:   15-30 Hz. Everyday alert, wakeful consciousness
    • Gamma:  26-100 Hz. Binding population of neurons into a network to carry out certain cognitive or motor functions
    • Alpha: 9-14 Hz. Relaxation, calm, lucid altered state; light hypnotic trance; guided imagery
    • Theta:   4-8 Hz:    Deep relaxation; meditation, deep hypnotic trance
    • Delta:   1-3 Hz.     Deep dreamless sleep
  • EMG: (Electromyography): Electrodes are placed on painful areas of the body. The subject attempts to change the feedback he is getting to feedback that is correlated with reduced pain. Biofeedback refers to the use of equipment to feed back to you information --via seeing a certain pattern or hearing certain sounds about your level of muscle tonus, finger temperature, or brain activity. The goal is to lessen tension, induce relaxation, and produce altered states of body and mind within which to normalize bodily dysfunctions.

  • Issues Addressed:
    • Migraine headaches
    • Irritable bowel syndrome
    • High blood pressure
    • ...... and the like

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has conducted advanced professional workshops on the following topics, among many others:

  • “Biofeedback for stress related disorders.”
  • “Just how helpful is biofeedback for ADD and AD-HD?”
  • “Biofeedback and Acupressure for migraine headache.”
  • “Simple versus complex forms of biofeedback/neurofeedback.”
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WEIGHT MANAGEMENT:


Intervention Techniques: From among multiple successful drug-free approaches, we select those geared to the needs of the individual.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Diet
    • Supplements
    • Exercise
    • Motivation
    • Procrastination
    • Reinforcement
    • Punishment
    • Relationship Issues
    • Reactions to verbal taunts
    • Medical and medication complications

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EATING DISORDERS:

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member: Academy for Eating Disorders, National Eating Disorders Association, National Association of Anorexia Nervosa & Associated Disorders, Binge Eating Disorder Association.




  • Intervention Techniques:
    • We have developed our own techniques to counter these serious problems, tailoring them to fit individual needs.
    • All techniques are 100% drug-free.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Anorexia
    • Bulimia
    • Pathological Binging
    • Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)
    • Developmental Obesity
    • Mixed Categories

Our Director, Dr. Gildston

  • Presented recently an advanced professional workshop on Eating Disorders at the annual meeting of NYSCH.
  • Was scheduled to present a workshop entitled “Why integrative psychotherapy is the way to go for addictive eating disorders” at the Annual Meeting of the Society for the Exploration of Integrative Psychotherapy.
  • Presented a workshop entitled “Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse:  Prevention and treatment for a spectrum of artful and dangerous addictions” at the Annual Conference of the NAADAC.
  • Dr Gildston is also the director of A North Shore Center for Eating Disorders.
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CHRONIC PAIN MANAGEMENT:

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member and Diplomate, American Academy of Pain Management




We understand the psychological toll of chronic pain. We also know that research studies indicate:

a) Pain is felt in the body but controlled in the brain.
b) The mind can be taught to increase the production of natural pain inhibitors. This faculty of the mind may allow for a decrease in the dosage of pain medications or may reduce the need for such medications altogether.

  • Issues Addressed:
    • Headaches
      • Migraine
      • Tension
      • Cluster
      • Sinus
      • Hormone
      • Stress
    • Back, Limb, & Chest Pain
    • Fibromyalgia
    • TMJ 
    • Carpal Tunnel
    • Arthritis
    • Irritable Bowel Syndrome
    • ...And More
Our Director, Dr. Gildston:
  • Recently moderated a day-long panel at the 19th Annual Clinical meeting of the AAPM on “The Chronic Pain Experience.”
  • Dr. Gildston also gave a presentation at that meeting on “Shifting the ‘noise’ of chronic pain to the background,” explaining how various psychological interventions in the areas of Complementary and Alternative Medicine (CAM) can significantly ameliorate chronic pain.
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SLEEP DISORDERS


We treat all sleep disorders except sleep apnea which requires a medical lab facility.

  • Issues Addressed:
    • Difficulty falling asleep
    • Light or troubled sleep
    • Awakening too early
    • Inability to go back to sleep after awakening
      (to go to the bathroom, for example)
    • Fear of falling asleep
    • Anxiety about not being able to fall asleep
    • Nightmares/provocative or disturbing dreams
ANXIETY & DEPRESSION:

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member: Anxiety and Depression Association of America;  American Psychological Association; American Counseling Association; Association of Spirituality and Psychotherapy; Association for Psychological Science; American Psychoanalytic Association-Psychotherapist Associate; Diplomate APA; Fellow, NAMA

  
Anxiety Disorders: 
    
Social AnxietyHave you ever felt any of the following sensations?
  • restless or a sense of edginess                                               
  • easily tired
  • can’t concentrate
  • wondering if your mind is going "blank"
  • irritable
  • muscle tension
  • can’t fall asleep or stay asleep
WorrisomeOr even more worrisome:
  • Are you avoiding people, places, or situations that are reminiscent of a traumatic event?
  • Do you re-experience some trauma in repeated nightmares or flashbacks?
  • Is it difficult for you to trust others?
  • Are you paying too much attention to staying safe or keeping loved ones safe?
  • Do you startle easily?
  • Are you struggling with a sense of a bleak or foreshortened future?
 
Perhaps you have even experienced the far end of the anxiety spectrum:
  • palpitations?
  • chest pain, chest tightness, feeling like you may be having a heart attack?
  • shortness of breath or trouble breathing?
  • sweating of the palms?
  • nausea or other stomach upset?
  • trembling or shaking?
  • dizziness, unsteadyness, lightheaded, or faint?
  • feelings of unreality or feeling detached from yourself?                              
  • fear of losing control or going insane?                                                                  
  • numbness or unexplained tingling sensations?                                                       
  • chills or hot flashes not related to anything physical?
  • feeling like you are choking?
  • sensing impending doom?
  • feeling like you are dying.
WHAT MIGHT BE THE DIAGNOSIS?

Anxiety disorder DSM-IV classifications

 

The Scream Heads

 
Just imagine what it would be like if you were able to conquer these demons.  We’ve helped many a patient do just that using many of the therapeutic techniques described above.  Click on the links below to learn more.


Dr. Gildston has conducted the following workshops on Anxiety Disorders:
  • “Breathing, thinking, and anxiety.”
  • “Post-traumatic stress in our veterans.”
  • “The OCD non-cure.”
  • “Anxiety related to physical pain CAN be diminished.”
  • “How to overcome public speaking phobias”

Please note that although Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is considered by the DSM to be an Anxiety Disorder, there is considerable evidence that it differs significantly from other anxiety disorders. Hence we have added a special section for OCD just below this section on Anxiety & Depression.


 Depression:

Some symptoms of depression overlap with those of anxiety.  Some are more unique.  Many of you may be struggling with both disorders.  Imagine what it would be like if you could minimize or eliminate some of the emotional downers listed below.  If so, consider coming to our center where we have been helping patients see the glass not only half full—instead of half or fully empty—but actually moving toward the top.

Depression
  • feelings of low self-worth
  • heightened self-depreciation
  • a sense of guilt
  • deep sadness
  • hopeless
  • pessimistic
  • loss of capacity to take pleasure in day to day activities
  • reduced energy
  • slowed down thinking
  • slow to act upon needs
  • loss of appetite
  • sleep problems

One of the most common psychological complaints, depression varies in reasons for onset, severity, and pattern of occurrence from one person to another.  It is twice as prevalent in woman. 

Some believe that a major component may be defective regulation of one or more naturally occurring neurotransmitters, particularly norepinephrine and serotonin. Hence medication is often prescribed to rebalance these neurotransmitters. Typically medications provide help but too often improvements are only temporary for some.

There is also research that has found a connection among depression, disordered REM sleep, and changes in the amygdala, the center of emotions in our brains. In refractory cases more dramatic methodologies have been used, including electroconvulsive therapy (ECT), gene therapy, and deep brain stimulation (DBS). These more experimental approaches are associated with potentially serious side effects.

Research indicates that some form of psychotherapy—with or without medication—is crucial for effecting more permanent changes for the better.
 Typically such medications provide help but too often improvements are only temporary for some patients.

Dr. Gildston has conducted the following workshops on Depression, among others:
  • “Singing the blues or having the blues?”
  • “Hope for the down and out”
  • “Depression, bipolar, borderline: How clear are the boundaries?”




OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER (OCD):

Do you have morbidly recurring thoughts that are incompatible with your self-image? Do they lead you to perform ritualistic acts in order to get temporary relief from such thoughts that go round and around? Are you disturbed or ashamed of your thoughts and actions but unable to cease and desist? If so you are probably suffering from a fairly common disorder called Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. OCD ranges from relatively unclear, rather vague obsessions to highly specific recurring thoughts with or without observable accompanying compulsions. The scope of possible obsessions is vast, from cycling images of you or a loved one dying in some horrible fashion to seeing filth on every object in sight—followed by a need to wipe each clean. You may have obsessions without overt compulsions but with covert thought compulsions.

Your OCD may be causing you so much stress and anxiety you have become depressed. Now you have a triple whammy to contend with: OCD, anxiety, and depression. You may sense your quality of life has gone downhill even though you may be able to function at work and in day to day activities. On the other hand, your compulsions could be interfering with your ability to work or get things done around the house.

We specialize in helping you handle these unfair challenges in your life.

Alternatively, have your parents, friends, or spouse been upset with your “weird” rituals and tried to persuade you to stop or limit them? Perhaps you don’t understand why they are making such a fuss over some of your thoughts and actions. Indeed, they may seem perfectly reasonable to you and in tune with your self-concept. . You may even derive pleasure from doing what others find objectionable. If this overview describes you, you may (or may not) have what has been labeled Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder. In that case, you may not wish to change. If you are a parent, friend, or spouse of someone who fits this category, you may come to us to learn how you may motivate your friend or loved one to seek professional help.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Sexual Images
      • Incest
      • Rape
      • Animal
      • Genitals
      • Homosexual
      • Heterosexual
    • Religious Images
    • Cleanliness & Washing
    • Death & Dying
    • Counting
    • Aggressive Acts
    • Repeated Checking on Actions
    • Movement Stereotypes
    • …and more...

    The following may be OCD symptoms or just bad habits:

    • Skin Picking
    • Hair or Eyebrow Plucking
    • Nail Biting
    • Throat Clearing
  • Intervention Techniques:
  • NB: CBT and the variants above (especially ERP) have been proven to be the most effective approaches for relieving OCD symptoms. Other approaches are add-ons which may help to minimize the anxiety and hopelessness that often accompany OCD.
        

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has chaired and taken part in several workshops on OCD including:
  • “Whirling thoughts: the opposite result from that for whirling dervishes.”
  • “Does ERP really work?”
  • “The debate on whether OCD can be cured.”
  • “How clean is your OCD clean?”
  • “Santa Claus is only checking it twice.”
  • “Covert obsessions may produce covert compulsions.”

SUBSTANCE ABUSE ADDICTIONS:

Dr. Gildston: Professional Member, National Association of Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselors (NAADAC); DOT Certified Substance Abuse Professional (SAP); Certified Professional Member, Feeling State Addiction Protocol (FSAP)


Have you been struggling with one or more substances? Do you feel like the substance is in control rather than you?
If you’re looking at this website there’s probably a part of you that may want to reign in some of these abusive or addictive behaviors. You may want to find a new way to live calmly in the present as well as to look forward to a more positive and in-control future.

For 25 years we have worked with adults and teen-agers with these problems—individuals like you who want to make significant changes in their lives. All of us are licensed PhD doctors who are broadly trained. We specialize in alternative, totally drug-free rehabilitation techniques. We decide together with you which intervention(s) will be best for you. For those of you with multiple abuses or addictions, know that we only work on those substances which you have elected to conquer.





Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has presented several workshops on Substance Abuse & Addictions including:

  • “Differing approaches to the treatment of substance abuse and addiction.”
  • “A treatment attack on recidivism in addiction.”
  • Presented a workshop entitled “Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse:  Prevention and treatment for a spectrum of artful and dangerous addictions” at the 2009 Annual Conference of the NAADAC, the association for addiction professionals.


 

ADDICTIONS AND COMPULSIVE BEHAVIORS



Compulsive Activities: (Must be differentiated from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.)
 
 Do you have an activity interest that has taken over your life? If you’re truly happy in that pursuit you don’t need our help. If, on the other hand, it has become a compulsion which is causing you significant interpersonal, family, and (or) personal grief—even though you may still be deriving pleasure from the activity—we can help you conquer that compulsion. We can even help motivate you to want to cease and desist. Our licensed PhD doctor specialists have been doing so for 25 years.

For 25 years we have worked with adults and teen-agers with these problems—individuals like you who want to make significant changes in their lives. All of us are licensed PhD doctors who are broadly trained. We specialize in alternative, totally drug-free rehabilitation techniques. We decide together with you which intervention(s) will be best for you. For those of you with multiple abuses or addictions, know that we only work on those substances which you have elected to conquer. An example of one technique among many which we use to help free you of addictions is FSAP. In the words of its creator:

“Impulse-control disorders such as pathological gambling, sexual addiction, and compulsive shopping cause enormous suffering in people’s lives. The feeling-state theory of impulse-control disorders postulates that these disorders are created when intense positive feelings become linked with specific behaviors. The effect of this linkage is that, to generate the same feeling, the person compulsively reenacts the behavior related to that original positive-feeling event, even if detrimental to his or her own wellbeing. This reenactment creates the impulse-control disorder. The therapy described in this article is the Impulse-Control Disorder Protocol (ICDP), which uses a modified form of eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) to address these fixations.

 

1 Identify the exact behavior that has the most intense positive feeling.

2. Identify the exact feeling that underlies that behavior.

3. A modified form of EMDR is utilized to break the connection between the feeling and behavior.

4. The negative beliefs that underlie the compulsive fixation are processed.


  • Issues Addressed:
    • Compulsive Gambling
      • Racing
      • Poker
      • Slot Machines
      • Casino Board Games
      • Stock Market
      • ... and the like
    • Compulsive Shopping
    • Compulsive Internet Surfing
    • Extreme Sexual Excesses
    • Pornography Excesses
    • Overworking
    • Overeating
  • There is a new technique—an off-shoot of EMDR —called Feeling State Addiction Protocol (FSAP) which has had some excellent results in eliminating addictions:

    FSAP: Dr Gildston is Certified in FSAP

    • Any feeling can become fixated with any behavior.
    • Identify the exact feeling & the exact behavior.
    • Look for the most intense positive feeling connected with the compulsive fixation.
    • Process the fixation with a modified form of EMDR.





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Per the creator or FSAP, an addiction can be triggered by either an internal or external event. Hence:

Intense Desired Feeling + Positive Event = Addictive Fixation

OR

Addictive Fixation + Trigger Event = Addictive Behavior

The FSAP breaks the fixation between feeling and behavior. Once this connection is broken, there are no cravings or urges to be controlled, no behavior to be managed.



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Embarrassing Bad Habits:


Do you have a bad habit that is causing you embarrassment, annoyance, or problems with friends and loved ones? You do NOT have to continue living with it. You CAN conquer it with our help.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Skin Picking
    • Hair Pulling
    • Nail Biting
    • Nose Picking
    • Repetitive body movements
    • Excessive procrastination
    • Compulsive lateness
    • Extreme cluttering
    • ... and the like

Compelling Consumables: 
Even though your weight may remain unchanged and you may have no diagnosable eating disorder, do you compulsively consume excessive amounts of junk food? We can help you conquer this extremely unhealthy compulsion.
  • Issues Addressed:
    • Excessive Consumption of Caffeine (Coffee, Chocolate, Caffeinated Soft Drinks, etc.)
    • Excessive Consumption of Sugar (Cakes, Cookies, Candy, soft Drinks, etc.)
    • Excessive Consumption of Junk Foods (Excess Trans-fats, Sugar, Salt, etc.)
    • Excessive Consumption of Chemically Altered Foods (Foods with Multiple Additives) 

                       

SELF DEFEATING ATTITUDES:

Self Defeating Negativity:  
Have you turned friends and family off with an excessively negative attitude? If you’re satisfied—even happy—with such consequences, you would certainly not be looking at this website with a desire to change. But if you believe you might be more content by becoming more positive, we can definitely help.

  • Issues Addressed:
     
    • Hypercritical of others
    • Excessively complaining
    • Excessively confrontational
    • Excessively aggressive

Self Defeating Avoidance:  

On the other hand, you may have been behaving in ways that attempt to disguise who you really are because you are insecure or think ill of yourself. If that is the case, you’re probably NOT particularly happy or content. We can help you become more interpersonally courageous and more self-accepting.

  • Issues Addressed:
    • Excessive people pleasing
    • Totally non-confrontational
    • Insecure or shy with the opposite sex
    • Passively aggressive
    • Socially anxious or avoidant
    • Anxious when speaking publicly or performing


Anger Management 

Dr. Gildston:
Professional Member and Fellow, National Anger Management Association.


  • Issues Addressed:
    • Excessively angry
    • Outbursts of rage
    • Temper tantrums
    • Verbally abusive
    • Tendency to engage at times in physical abuse


 

SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES 
   Do you hear yourself repeatedly saying to yourself negative comments such as:

          

If so, you probably know, consciously or at a gut level, that you have a significant self-esteem issue. Unfortunately, a poor self-image can potentially lead to a host of disturbing sequelae:
  • Loneliness
  • Anxiety
  • Fear
  • Despair
  • OCD/Addictions
  • Workaholic Behavior
  • Depression
  • Embarrassment
  • Shame
  • Panic Attacks
  • Sexual Dysfunction
  • Boundary Issues
  • Distorted Body Image (BDD)
  • Hypersensitivity/Hypervigilance
  • Underdeveloped Social Skills
  • Unrealistic Expectation
  • Over/Under Achiever
  • Lack of Assertiveness
EVEN: Self-hate or Self-harm


We offer multiple interventions (see our extensive list of psychological approaches) to help you reverse these negative self-accusations which, in turn, allows their negative consequences to recede significantly. Our goal is to move you toward a sense of psychological strength and belongingness as well as toward a capacity for making more rational evaluations of outcomes. We aim for you to progress toward a realistic measure of self-love.

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has run workshops on the following related topics:
  •  “The PLEASER: child to grandma: symptoms & solutions.”
  •  “Understanding self-harm, from self-slapping to cutting.”
  •  “How to be alone and not feel lonely.
  •  “I shoulda, woulda, coulda, but didn’t !”




STRESS MANAGEMENT:                                                                                        


Personal & Family:

If you can't handle stress you may adversely affect your health and your sense of well-being. In response to both internal and external stresses, shifting moods may turn others off. Relationships may be endangered. Stresses related to work, family, friends, and lovers are addressed.
  • Techniques for reducing stress are taught, including:
    • Meditation
    • Self-hypnosis
    • Cognitive-behavioral shifts
    • Changes in patterns of verbal and non-verbal behavior
    • .....and more
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Corporate: 

To improve morale and thereby increase output efficiency, we evaluate, analyze, report on, and teach how to minimize interpersonal stresses and conflicts within and between:

  • Individuals within departments
  • Different departments
  • Hierarchical ranks from the highest administrative to the new working recruit levels
For example, a supervisor may be unaware that when he purposefully or unconsciously intimidates a worker, he is likely to impede the worker's productivity or creativity. On the other hand, the worker may not know how to cope effectively with such abuse.

Group programs are customized to reduce stress and create harmony. Thereby such programs enhance morale and increase productivity.
 
 

POST TRAMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD)/TRAUMA

Have you experienced…

    • Sudden death or desertion by a loved one
    • Mutilating car accident
    • Severe abuse or neglect by a partner
    • Violent criminal assault
    • Military combat
    • Life-threatening natural disaster
    • Rape
    • Critical child abuse, neglect, or abandonment
    • Traumatic loss of a pet
    • Observation of momentous traumatic event

Typically, the victim is unprepared for these events. Nor can she do anything to prevent the trauma since it is unexpected. The immediate response is one of helplessness, intense fear, and horror.

It’s possible you experienced one or more of these traumas but were able to rise like a phoenix out of the ashes. Your resilience may have been supported by an understanding family or friends. Perhaps a short bout of therapy was all that you needed or is what you need right now if you’re still experiencing some fear or anxiety about the event.

On the other hand, you may need serious therapeutic attention for unmitigating flashbacks, depression, suicidal ideation, hypervigilance, severe anxiety, or other self-defeating emotions. Perhaps you have some of the following symptoms because of negative pre-event, post-event, or actual event factors such as the following:

Negative Pre-event and Post-Event Factors

    • Unstable familial or marital environment
    • Previous exposure to child abuse or other traumas
    • Absence of social support
    • Poor coping skills or self devaluation
    • Medical issues that complicate recovery
    • Self-Pity leading to passive rather than active responses

Negative Event Factors

    • The existence of an on-going threat
    • Prolonged exposure with geographic nearness
    • Profound meaningfulness of event for you

Intervention Techniques:

    • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
    • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) plus ACT, DBT
    • Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
    • Clinical Hypnotherapy
    • Prolonged Exposure Therapy
    • Fealing-State Addiction Protocol (FSAP), PTT, & IRT
    • Substance Abuse Therapy
      (If you’ve tried escaping with drugs or alcohol)

In therapy you can increase your sense of coherence, develop an internal locus of control, increase self-efficacy, and improve both your physical and emotional strength by developing strong motivation to deal with the trauma and enhancing your optimism for change.

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, is certified at the most advanced level in EMDR, CBT, Clinical Hypnotherapy, and more. She is also a certified Substance Abuse Professional (SAP). Come for a free consultation.


 


Division IA
Collaborative Divorce/Non-Marital Dissolution Practice

Dr. Gildston has been doing successful mediation for over 20 years.  Because she is also a NYS licensed Marriage and Family Therapist she is exceptionally prepared to function as a Divorce Coach and/or Child Specialist in a collaborative team.

We make every effort to keep couples and families together. If separation, divorce, or non-marital dissolution is inevitable, however, we aim to help make the resolution of issues as fair, as fast, and as financially reasonable as possible.
 
Separation-Divorce Mediation:


If a couple on the verge of separation or divorce can remain relatively calm, reasonable, and respectful of and with each other, mediation may be the fastest and least encumbered route to dissolution. We can provide the guidance to help couples work out their issues. The goal is fairness. The hope is an ending without rancor and resentment.


Collaborative Divorce-Non-marital Dissolution:


If issues are more complicated, the best solution could be to work with collaborative family professionals. Since this is a relatively new concept, let us quote from the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.

  • “The heart of Collaborative Practice or Collaborative Divorce (also called "no-court divorce," “divorce with dignity," "peaceful divorce") is to offer you and your spouse or partner the support, protection, and guidance of your own lawyers without going to court.”
     
  • “Additionally, Collaborative Divorce allows you the benefit of child and financial specialists, divorce coaches and other professionals all working together on your team.”
This innovative approach to what is typically a sticky situation can help keep your head clearer and your emotions cooler. Typically, included in the team are two lawyers, one for each member of the couple, and a divorce coach. The couple may also elect to include in the team a child specialist—especially if the couple has children under the age of 18—and a neutral financial specialist to work out any monetary issues.




Divorce Coach:


We take you through the process step by step, clarifying goals and easing concerns. There are private meetings for each member of the couple with their coach (or together if the couple so elects) and private meetings with the attorney each has selected, as well as combined meetings with coach(es) and attorneys where further differences are hammered out--in a respectful, fair manner. The child specialist and neutral financial specialist may also join meetings as needed.

Our coaches are all NY State licensed mental health professionals. We are fortunate to have Marriage & Family Therapists at our center who have worked for many years with concerns of all types of couples--marital & non-marital--as well as with unique child and family issues. They understand how to be helpful to all family members without taking sides.


Child Specialists:


Our Child Specialists have extensive experience with children of all ages-- from toddlers to teenagers--and all types of special needs--from children with anger, extreme sensitivity/shyness, depression, autism spectrum or other emotional issues to the language/learning disabled and under-achievers. Often a well-adjusted child develops issues during this difficult process about which one or both parents or other members of the team are unaware.  The specialist selected by you is there to make certain each child's comprehensive needs are understood by all parties.

Our Director, Dr. Gildston, is not only a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist but also a licensed Speech-Language Pathologist and Audiologist and thus has worked extensively with children of all ages who are struggling with a developmental disorder, ADHD, ADD, language delay, mutism, autism, Asperger’s, and deafness, as well as other communication disorders.

Division II
Self Development Skills

 SPORTS:

For any sport, research shows that guided imagery and hypnosis can help athletes attain effortless concentration and maximum performance.  Teaching self-hypnosis as well is a key component for clients.
  • These techniques can help you train your mind to:
    • Streamline skills & focus on the goal, even as you go with the flow
    • Enhance confidence
    • Take reasonable risks
    • Cope with minor pains and fatigue
    • Enjoy every moment (good and bad)
    • Be comfortable winning or losing
    • .......And much much more
Our Director, Dr. Gildston, is a certified Approved Consultant for the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) and has helped a number of professional athletes—as well as lay athletes like you and she--to minimize or eliminate kinks in performance as well as maximize strengths.


 ACADEMICS:

  • Our Center is the place for you if you have one or more of the following troubles:
    • Concentrating when you study.
    • Blanking out or experiencing panic when sitting for exams.
    • Having to read the same text page several times before you "get it."
    • Not knowing how to handle a seemingly hostile teacher.

  • They will help you learn how to :
    • Calm and focus your mind
    • Conquer distraction
    • Overcome fear
    • Maximize performance
    • .............and much much more

Our university professors—like Dr. Gildston—have helped students in all grades--from kindergarten to graduate, law, and medical schools.
 DATING:

  • For all ages and sexual orientations , we teach you how to :
    • Find potential dates or mates.
    • Present your true self in the best light.
    • Make a profile for on-line dating that brings the best.
    • Question and sharpen first impressions.
    • Recognize, handle, and separate from a no-win or dangerous partner.
    • Understand and cope with rejection and unwanted affection.
    • ..........and much much more.
    Our Director, Dr. Gildston, has served as a Personal Coach for more than 20 years. She can help you smooth out the knots.

 HUMOR:
  • We teach you how best to:
    • Insert humor into situations
    • Tell a joke
    • Recount a funny story
    • Create humorous figures of speech
    • .....and much much more
    Our Director, Dr. Gildston, whose first profession was stage acting with an avant-garde theater group  called “The Living Theater,” can help you learn to use humor to disarm and lure friends and lovers.





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